The Philippines is a wonderful and beautiful country and the women are exactly the same.
You'll have many questions about them if you intend to visit, live, work or retire there.
When I first visited the Philippines in 2010, I was an aid worker to help the Philippines people recover from a natural disaster.
It was hard work.
I fell in love with the Philippines and its' people from that moment on.
I returned 6 months later for a 'discovery holiday'.
I’ve visited and traveled through the Philippines a number of times since then.
And also spent time with a number of lovely Philippine girls.
Without doubt, the most common question I'm asked by my friends and family is whether or not the women there are totally obsessed by Western men with money.
I don't think they are any different to women in any other country.
Personally, I think there's a stigma attached to South East Asian women and money.
Naturally filipino people see Western expat guys as a potential ticket to freedom.
I've never ever given any of my western girlfriends money and I maintain that same rule of thumb with women in any of the other countries I have visited, including the Philippines.
Once you start down the road of buying gifts and giving money to anyone then I think you're on the path to disaster.
The giving will never stop.
But don't become a chump by thinking a woman only wants your money either.
That is certainly not the case.
If you are with a girl that seems hellbent on 'parting you from your wallet' then it's time to stop and find someone else.
Common sense says that if you're giving a woman 'money for sex' then you're with a prostitute.
If that suits your needs, then fine.
But think about it seriously.
The second question I get asked about the most is what these pinoy girls think about western guys and the online dating scene.
I'm in the fortunate position that I have developed good friendships with many women there who are simply just friends, nothing sexual.
That 'women and money' thing comes into play with online dating sites as well.
Just because they live in another country and may have a lesser grasp of the English language doesn't mean they are dumb.
Far from it.
These girls have an end-game about security for themselves, as well as their family if they had some. Filipino culture is very much about family.
They are going to do the same as the guys are going to do.
They trawl through many guys on online dating sites.
They will have multiple conversations with western guys just as you should be doing that too.
That's simply the nature of a dating website.
They aren't dumb :)
There's many dating sites around and they are aware how to detect free members as opposed to guys that have paid a dating site for Pro Membership.
They are looking for the signs that they going to meet a guy in the future who has a good heart as well is not being cheap and can provide.
In its basic form, the small price you pay for an upgraded membership is simply the cost of doing business.
I have never had hesitation in trading the cost of a lunch and beer to be able the message girls online when I want and as often as I want.
In my travels I've visited many countries.
20 or $30 for a few months full access membership isn't something of great importance.
It's a hassle to have to wait 10 or 15 minutes to message again, like on some sites.
Important Note: You Wait and You Lose
Girls are high high demand on dating sites - well, the cute and sexy Philippine girls are :)
But you know what? I've lost out many times.
The time to strike is NOW and not after some other guy has the girl interested - that means you miss out!
Every woman on every dating site knows when they are talking to a free member.
I asked my Filipino friends to confirm this.
And yes, they will happily talk to many single Western guys.
Every girl I spoke to confirmed this with me but they are also taking notes :)
Just as you should be keeping track of the girls you're talking to, they are also doing the same.
Don't waste your time and energy trying to look at ways to meet girls on dating websites on the cheap then go ahead.
The smart guys are spending small money for those premium features - unlimited messaging is the smarter move.
Let's talk about your own motivation and agenda because that's really what dating in the Philippines is all about.
The reason why western men travel to the Philippines for female companionship can be broken down into some broad categories.
Yhey all include sex:
So let's be honest, the main motivation you have in finding filipino girls is for fucking.
There are roughly 50 million women in the Philippines.
Many are living in destitute times.
Imagine yourself in their position.
Their main motivations in hooking up with western men are covered by the following broad categories:
You see their agendas and motivations of vastly different to yours?
The great news for you is these pinay girls love having sex.
Yes, yes they do!
It's a win-win situation for you.
Important Note: Scammers vs. Desperation
It's important to understand the distinction between a scam and just a desperate woman.
Scammers are a room full of Nigerians masquerading themselves as girls and trying solicit your money via a wire transfer.
At the other end of the scale are filipino women who are desperate or destitute.
Don't confuse the two!
In any socio-economic climate of any country, there is going to be affluent people at one end of the scale and poor and destitute people at the other.
The majority of the pinay you'll meet both online and in your travels through the Philippines are going to be somewhere in the middle to lower ranges.
Many are going to have money issues.
One of the wonderful things with the people of the Philippines is their overall happiness.
They are born into a lack of worldly possessions.
But filipino culture and their family bonds are areas setting themselves apart from the western world.
Important Note: Scam Protection
Before I found this dating site, I tried a few others.
There are a few reasons why I moved away from them but the main one is the ever evolving scam protection techniques employed by PinayRomances.
I was fortunate enough to actually meet the two guys behind Pinay Romances as well.
If you didn't know, they are two single guys who have designed and built the websites in a manner they would wish all dating sites to be built. They are actual users, just like you and me.
Scam protection is constantly on the top of their list which makes this website one of the safest ones I have yet to use.
I've often said to my friends who have travelled to the Philippines about the importance of keeping scorecards as well as a rating system on potential girlfriends.
When you're traveling and meeting multiple girls, you will soon realise that keeping a record of important pieces of information can become a lifesaver.
I can't tell you the number of times I have arrived a few minutes early for a first date and then pulled out my smart phone to review what's been said between this girl and myself. It can be a life-saver lol
Many times I've been under the impression I'm meeting another girl.
That's just another reason to use a website with a secret notes and ratings feature, like this one.
As you're chatting online, it's easy to jot down small tidbits of information you can talk about when you finally meet face-to-face.
Never neglect the importance of record-keeping - it'll save your bacon when you least expect it :)
Women in the Philippines are the same as girls anywhere else in the World.
Fortunately for all you western guys, there are more women in the Philippines who are OK to experience a short-term sexual relationship.
That's why many guys frequently visit South-East Asia; and in particular, the Philippines.
You do need to get a few things sorted out first:
These few items can be a logistical nightmare.
Pinay girls who do short-term sex are also in higher demand of companionship, by other western guys traveling at the Philippines.
Yes, there are others like you :)
The Golden Rule:
You'll never ever accomplish all this once you land in the Philippines, to start looking around.
I had a few friends try this and they spent 95% of their time in the country interviewing prospective short-term sexual partners.
Sadly, the sex they experienced was low.
Which is the reason I'm writing here to clue you into my winning formula.
I've traveled to and from the Philippines a number of times over the last 36 months.
I now prepare a travel itinerary as well as a dating itinerary.
One of the best new features with PinayRomances is their Ratings and Secret Notes features.
If you haven't had a chance to use them, I would suggest taking a serious look at the advantages of Ratings and Notes.
You need to be organised.
It's easy to do.
As an example, I travelled to both Manila and Cebu, a few months ago.
My travel itinerary was an easy to plan.
For dating, doing a few searches for my age range and location pulled up the selection of girls I needed to filter for my preference.
For me, it's a visual match and then I use the Star Ratings as my initial culling process.Then comes the messaging, to gauge whether the girl is also interested in meeting me.
Some quick light-hearted initial message conversation follows.
This is important to make sure you're okay with what the woman is about.
And certainly jot down relevant information in the Secret Notes area for review at a later time.
At this point it is all about filtering to a smaller group of girls I want to meet, in the locations I am traveling to.
At no point am I engaging in any external third-party messaging apps such as Skype or Viber.
It's a waste of my time on girls I don't want to meet - I don't know the ones I want meet yet.
I change the rating down to a 1 Star for the girls I don't want to meet - this makes it easier for sorting at a later time.
Once you've used this system then scheduling up new girls with a firm booking takes only a few days and your experience with these girls will be so much better.
I'm nowhere near ready for much for retirement.
My Uncle Fabio retired five years ago to the Philippines.
That was one of the reasons the Philippines has always been on my travel list of countries to visit.
I'm glad I did.
Uncle Fabio retired to the Philippines before online dating.
He did all his research the old fashion way :)
What I can say is, he is one lucky boy.
He is happily married to a Filipino woman 25 years his junior.
They also have a gorgeous daughter.
I've visited them on many an occasion.
His wife is genuinely 'over the moon' to have an older man in her life and to have a happy stable family with him.
If you're a older guy looking for younger Asian women (in particular a pinay girl) then there is no other place to look than South-East Asia.
The majority of pinay are simply looking for a better life.
They look on all western men is almost their saviors. An older western guy with a younger Filipino girl should treat her as a princess.
Where else in the world is an old expat dude going to find young women genuinely wanting to be with him, both sexually and in a relationship?
It's a two way street though.
Like any short term or long term relationship, you get out what you put in.
Having a sexy young Filipino as your partner is a golden lifestyle for any red blooded male.
If you're over 40 or 50 and approaching your retirement then this is the place to look.
Have a look around at the girls on this site and get started.
My Uncle is a testament to living a full and rich life in his late 60s.
Why would I want a filipina woman?
Semi-retired sailor traveling South-East Asia
Enjoying South East Asian Women and the delights of travelling there. I like to write about my exploits and the mistakes and wins I make so you can learn from them.