Dating someone who lives in a country halfway around the world is a big leap for many people - it's understandable.
International dating, whether it’s in the Philippines or in another country, often gets a bad rap. This reputation is often grounded in presumptions and negative stereotypes. Very rarely is it based on real life experience or facts.
Even so, I’m not going to lie to you and say that a relationship with a filipino women will be all sunshine and roses.
Just like any relationship, you’ll have hurdles and things to work through. But I will tell you a loving relationship with a Filipina is an extremely rewarding experience. It’s worth risk of stepping outside of your comfort zone.
Let's look at four benefits of a cross-culture relationship with a filipino woman. My hope is you will see internationald dating, not as a pipedream or a minefield, but as a grand opportunity to bring a higher level of love and satisfaction into your life.
Sites like PinayRomances.com provide a platform for honest men from the West to meet sincere ladies from the Philippines.
Perhaps you know the story: A good guy from the West is burned out from the dating scene back home. He’s tired of the power struggles and the quasi-commitment culture permeating the western dating scene. He finds his healthy and natural masculinity is a liability, in his own culture. He longs for a committed healthy relationship where he is valued for his role as a man and for his good character.
Across the ocean you have a young, beautiful, feminine, and family oriented Filipina. She longs for the security of finding a man who is family oriented and can provide a stable lifestyle for her and their future family. She’s been hurt by men in the past who were less than faithful and not very serious. She wants a man who won’t take her or her feminine qualities for granted, but instead will value and protect them.
In case you haven’t noticed, these two people essentially want the same thing: a healthy long-term relationship where their partner respects and cherishes what they bring to the table. International dating, in the Philippines especially, allows good men and good women to connect with each other. A healthy cross-cultural relationship will allow each person to experience the simple yet profound satisfaction of having a partner who values the other person for who they are, not what they have.
Unfortunately the online dating scene (whether it’s in the Philippines or elsewhere) is far from a carefree world of honest romance. The story above is one narrative among many others (many of which are far less noble). However, the story of sincere and well intentioned lovers isn’t a fairytale. Through sites like PinayRomances.com real couples are meeting and falling in love from around the world, especially in the Philippines.
Men interested in Philippines dating constantly cite the gender confusion and hysteria of the West as one of the main motivating factors for looking abroad.
In their culture, men and women are given conflicting messages about the do’s and don'ts of their gender, their roles in romantic relationships, as well is in the home.
In the West a thick residue of conservative (some might argue natural) ideals still rests the psyche of many people. There are many men who feel a pull to be confident, assertive, and take initiative in life as well as in relationships.
There are women who feel the nudge to be empathetic, sensitive, nurturing, and may even desire for a man to take the lead in a relationship.
On the other hand, there is also a strong pull for women to be assertive and confident in the dating world, just as there is a strong push for men to be more gentle and yield to the initiative of a woman.
These push and pulls on gender roles can add an extra level of strain on relationships, not to mention one’s inner character.
Men who want to chart a more traditional course will find the culture in the Philippines heavily emphasizes the classic roles of men and women in relationships.
Many Filipinas want and expect their man to take the lead and provide security in the relationship.
This relieves the pressure often added by the sexual mixmash of the West.
A relationship with a filipina is a gateway into another part of the world.
Every new relationship is filled with the excitement and novelty of discovering things about the other person.
It’s exciting to talk about your hobbies, your likes and dislikes, habits, and the myriad of other idiosyncrasies that make you who you are, and your partner who she is.
When you’re in a relationship with a Filipina, the season of discovery is never over.
You each come from opposite sides of the world.
You will be exposed to new foods, a new language, family traditions, a lot of karaoke and much more.
Trust me, when you have a Filipino wife there’s a lot to learn.
You’ll encounter a new way of looking at the world too.
Filipino culture is by and large less individualistic than the West.
They place a much larger emphasis on the closeness of the family. They’re also known for being a fairly laid back culture with a different emphasis on work and leisure.
Remember much of what’s normal for you will completely new for her.
Something as small as seeing everyday sales signs in the american supermarket or experiencing a cold winter could peak her curiosity.
Many ill-informed people think cultural differences add an unnecessary level of difficulty to a new relationship.
This is often not the case.
A healthy cross-cultural relationship is founded on mutual love, trust, and understanding just like any other relationship.
A difference in culture can bring some mild misunderstandings in the beginning, but in the long run these are small issues. Many people in cross cultural relationships notice surprising benefits come from falling in love with someone from another part of the world.
Those who fear a “class of cultures” often miss one of the biggest opportunities in an international relationship.
Remember those points of difference we talked about in the last point?
One of the most exciting parts of being in a relationship with a Filipina is together you get to pick and choose the best aspects of each other’s lives in order to build a new life together.
You can take the best of each other’s culture and leave the rest.
This multicultural way of life can lead to a multicultural family.
Imagine children who speak two languages, share two heritages, and feel at home in different parts of the world. This doesn’t have to be the road your family takes if you don’t want to; but the option is there if you want it.
If you were on the fence about pursuing a relationship in the Philippines, I hope my thoughts give you a nudge in the right direction.
Philippines dating isn’t easy.
You can be sure it’s rewarding!
If there’s a tug in your gut saying maybe there’s something more for you in the Philippines, I highly suggest you listen.
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I'm still on my own journey.
My hope is through my journey to find a foreign woman, others can learn and also take the journey for themselves.