It would help if you took precautions in all situations.
Dating Filipina girls is no different.
What should you not do when dating a Filipino woman for the first time?
Dating a Filipina will pose dangers to an unsuspecting tourist in the Philippines. There are eight necessary precautions a man must embrace to reduce risk and offense:-
Why do smart men do stupid things when dating women?
It only takes one dumb action to ruin your chances with the prettiest of Filipina girls.
Everyone trips up when it comes to different cultural customs; dating a Filipino girl is no different.
So what are the essential areas when dating a Pinay girl?
Filipino women are proud of their heritage, traditions, and culture. The principal seven areas essential to a successful relationship with a Pinay are:-
When it comes to Filipinas, traditions in their home and with their family are important.
Filipinos have a broad mix of cultural diversities as the country comprises over 7000 islands. Before the first Spanish arrived in 1521, the Philippines' inhabitants descended from Negritos, Malays, Indonesians, Chinese, and Muslims.
Rude, racist, or derogatory remarks will ruin romance with a Filipina; she loves her country and culture.
Do the research and understand Filipino traditions. Avoid even joking around; the chances are high, your Pinay girl will misinterpret the context of your joke, and you'll be 'in the shit.'
The Filipino people value the family structure and the stability this structure brings to their lives.
Countries with a low socio-economic foundation typically are also family-centric communities.
You're wise to get to know a Filipina girl's family.
Ask her about them, their names, what they do in life, stories about children, and how they interact.
You need to be on good terms with the girl's family members if your goal is to marry a Pinay.
Every woman likes to think she's unique; that's the Princess in her coming out.
Treating a Filipina with belief and respect goes a long way to getting who and what you want.
Here's some example question you can use when meeting her first on our dating site:-
Do not make your first message 'Send me your WhatsApp' - this is a strong signal to the girl that you lack respect for her. Indulge her with preliminary chitchat; you can jump to a messaging service once she's happy with you.
Think of every Filipino woman like a princess and treat her accordingly.
Be the guy to take the lead; Filipina women love brave and straightforward guys.
Life is too short to be vague. Be honest about your interest in the Filipina you're chatting with; what are you looking for and why.
Don't be rude or blunt, though; be forthright and direct.
Discuss your feelings on areas such as marriage, children, and money; and gauge her reactions too.
All successful relationships start with honesty and a firm understanding of the direction you are both headed.
Give yourselves the best opportunity for a good start.
Keeping yourself safe is essential.
Some Filipinas use fake photos to make initial contact with foreign men. Many Pinay girls think they aren't beautiful enough to attract a foreign boyfriend.
While PinayRomances uses AI photodetection, you should carry out your due diligence.
Is she on Facebook or Instagram? Do her photos align with other social networks?
An example of a Pinay profile going wrong:-
I was in Manilla and eventually settled on a local Filipina I meet here.
I did all the right things. We had good conversations and developed an excellent rapport online here before moving onto a WhatsApp video call. This Pinay appeared to be the right choice for a first date, and who knows what will be next.
We agreed to meet at a marketplace for food and drinks; lots of people around too.
Well, a chubby Filipina came up to me and introduced herself as the girl in the video call. She was an entirely different woman!
As her short story went, she had her younger sister do all the talking and dating site contact.
I said, 'Sorry, I'm not interested,' turned around and left.
There is nothing creepy about cross-checking facts.
Do video chat with her and confirm who she says she is.
Meet every Filipina in a public place, for the first time.
The Philippines can be a dangerous place for the uninitiated or first-time travelers.
Meeting her in a public area gives her added confidence you are a reputable guy too.
Public meeting areas can be shopping malls, coffee shops, or street markets. Anywhere with lots of people.
There have been many cases when meeting a woman alone has resulted in muggings and robbery.
On a positive note, public meeting spots make for great conversation starters too.
You both can enjoy 'people watching' and chat about the various shops and trinkets.
Stay safe and don't do anything stupid while you're in the Philippines.
Unfortunately, men think they don't need to be on their best behavior when out on a date, especially when foreigners visit other countries such as the Philippines.
I understand you want to go wild on holiday. Dating any woman requires respect, politeness, and moderating any outlandish behavior, at least during the first few meet-ups until you're both comfortable with each other.
It costs you nothing to be respectful.
Common sense goes out the window when you get excited; the sight of a sexy slim honey-skinned Filipina does stupid things to a man's brain.
Let's run through the common areas where you need to take care; the object is to get yourself to second base (and beyond).
Women inherently lack self-confidence; they hate comparisons to other women despite the fact they're continually comparing themselves.
Never compare your Pinay date to any other woman. It is OK if she asks you about the other women in your life; be careful to avoid comparisons.
She is looking for signals; do you want her and all the quirks she has?
She is not looking for competition with other women; finding the right guy is tricky enough when there are so many other gorgeous Filipinas.
When you make fun of the Philippines, you're disrespecting all Filipinos.
Filipino people are a kindhearted, generous, hospital, and intensely patriotic towards their country and culture.
The country's culture will be different from that of your home country.
Take the time to learn about the Philippines, its history and customs, and make a list of what you don't understand. That list will come in handy when you're looking for things to talk about when on a date with that cute Pinay girl.
Respect the country, and you move to the top of a Pinay girl's 'wish list.'
Racism is a global no-no.
It is not funny to crack jokes about her skin color or the shape of her eyes.
Filipinas are fiery and unforgiving girls. Please don't make derogatory remarks about her looks or other native Filipinos' looks.
'Do unto others as you would want them to do to you". Respect goes a long way with Filipino women.
Play it cool; enjoy the differences with other people and cultures; get the Filipina women you desire.
Lying gets you nowhere in life.
Do you read profile descriptions on dating sites? In that case, the prominent inclusions are statements such as 'Don't lie to me' or similar.
Being anonymous on a dating site doesn't give you any rights to masquerade as someone you are not.
Use real pictures of yourself; ensure the photos are taken in the best possible angle to display features you like. Clear good quality photos get you bonus points with Filipina girls.
Be truthful, even if you're only looking for a casual Philippines holiday girlfriend. At least everyone knows your situation, and the Filipina can make an informed decision. You might be surprised by her decision to be a holiday girlfriend as many girls do.
The truth will get you a better dating experience.
Curbing your alcohol intake is necessary.
Having a few drinks with your new Filipina girl will take 'the edge off' any initial jitters. I understand why men feel the need to feel more bravado when they're in the company of a beautiful cute Filipino woman.
Danger still exists for you if this is only your first or second date with the Filipina. You don't honestly know her intentions or whether you're in a mugging situation or worse.
Keep your wits about you and take the drinking slow and steady.
Have you heard of roofie or Rohypnol?
Rohypnol is a sedative made in the early 1970s and used in hospitals only for deep sedation. It is now an infamous date-rape drug.
The most common date rape drug used in the Philippines is gamma-hydroxybutyrate (GHB), aka liquid ecstasy. GHB can be a transparent liquid with no odor or color, a white powder, or a white round pill. It can make a drink taste slightly salty.
You can become a target in the Philippines, whether assault, robbery, or a violent crime.
Most cases involve the perpetrator putting this pill into an unattended beverage, your drink if you're not careful.
Being drugged also concerns your Pinay girlfriend. She could be the target of rape - the drugging of both your drinks may be the intent.
Always be aware of your surroundings when you're out in a foreign country.
There are benefits to your privacy.
Be wary of the amount of private information you divulge to avoid identity thief and stalking.
There's no harm in drip-feeding your more intimate and personal details. You must first be comfortable with the Filipina girlfriend and her intentions.
Relationships take time to develop.
Never explain your entire financial situation, whether you think yourself rich or poor. Your money should remain yours to manage.
Be cautious and see how your new romance unfolds.
This section is a 'double-down' on meeting her in public, but it's critical you understand the importance.
Don't ever feel pressured by a Filipina to meet her in a private bar or club.
You are in charge of your safety; be the one to pick the time and place.
If you ever feel uncomfortable with the girl or the surroundings, take action and leave. People rarely listen to their gut instinct, but it is a mighty warning bell for you to heed.
Finding the right Filipina is typically respect-based. A good Filipino woman is seeking the right man with good intentions.
Be the gentleman she wants you to be, and she will give you what you want.
But getting to the pussy requires you to be level-headed on your safety too.
Be aware of the warning signs of potential danger, and never be pressured in going to a place where you feel uneasy.
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Author: Geoff H
Scuba Instructor in the Philippines
Hi. I am Geoff. I am an avid adventurer and teach scuba in the Philippines with my Filipino girlfriend of 4 years. I hope you enjoy my articles and insights.